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SAFE DATING OR SIDEWALK SERENADES

Safe dating is the goal for everyone brave enough to step out of their comfort zone, get off the couch, and open the front door. Whether long term, short term, husband-wife, blind date, or one of those high school reunion prince and princess things you hear about, safety is paramount. But, if you’re anything like […]

RED FLAG, OR JUST BEING AN ADULT?

Who is quick to pull a red flag as often as possible? The same people who whine the loudest when they get flagged. If that’s you, let’s talk about flagmanship, red flagmanship.

HORSE, RIDER, YOU, ME, AND SECRETARIAT

Horse rider? It sounds like a strange thing to call someone, but I’m not calling. Instead, I’m referring to what I like to say is the magical formula to every successful relationship. When you go to the stables and saddle up, no one is confused about who is who in the role playing department. You […]

RELATIONSHIP ABERRATION? WHO IS THE ABERRATION, WHO IS ‘NORMAL’

The big question in a relationship aberration is who is who? Who is the aberration for the other, who is the norm. So there I was sitting down to a late lunch with my wife talking about aberrations. I started by using a string as an example. String? Stay with me.

MATERIAL CULTURE IN MARRIAGE

  Material culture before marriage is one thing, after marriage another. It starts with a ring and sometimes that’s it. When relationships don’t work out, there’s usually a reason unless someone dies. This is what happened before I got married:

GIVE UP? HOW TO START

Give up is what losers do? Not so fast. It’s got other names, like surrender, capitulate, quit. But giving up sounds so final. Why?

GRANDPARENT CHRISTMAS BLESSING

A grandparent Christmas is different than another Christmas? It is for the willing, as in willing to keep things on schedule. Not so much for those who set a time and place and use it for judging others. Like everything else that goes one, things come up to delay the time. But it doesn’t effect […]

RELATIONSHIP REPORT CARDS ON BOOMERPDX

Relationship report cards should always be filled out by a third party. We already know how the principal partners grade: “It wasn’t me, it was them.” Sound like an A grade to you? But it’s never that easy. Nor should it be. Who is a qualified third party?

RELATIONSHIP AWARENESS: KNOW WHO YOU’RE TALKING TO

‘Relationship awareness’ sounds like a warning? Like a highway sign that says, “BUMPS?” If it doesn’t sound like a warning, maybe you’re not paying attention. Now is a good time to start, but start the right way.

DESPERADO DAYS, AN OLD SONG FOR CURRENT TIMES

Desperado days come into focus when you ask a millennial if they’ve heard the song before. Maybe it depends on how you ask? “This is my anthem song, my guide in the ’70’s, the song that rang true then and now. Ever hear of Desperado?” I’ll be honest here, if someone asked me like that […]