SELF ESTEEM, THE BUILDING BLOCKS OF TRUST

Self esteem is more than a shot in the arm, more than getting pumped up.

If you’re good and you know it, how do you show it?

Is there a secret, because you know self esteem when it walks in the door.

Do you really need to show you’ve ‘Got It?’

During the one haircut I got during the covid pandemic, when things were looking up, an older woman came in with an appointment.

She and the hair stylist lady got into it pretty good.

Lady: I can’t understand why we had a lockdown. It’s ruining so many businesses. No one goes anywhere.

Stylist: And they don’t care if they look good, or how good they look. They even cut their own hair and we’ll be seeing those results later.

She could have been talking about me. I’ve had one haircut all year. I call it a tribute to my mom and Hooty Hair. Their notes on my style include “asked for mullet.”

Is a head of hair linked to self esteem? Check the look on those you admire. Now imagine them with different hair. Anything change?

Poor Self Esteem Comes With A Certain Look

A nice haircut, good watch, trendy shoes, clean clothes and look out world.

Is it a snake or a savior walking through that door? Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference.

But you can.

You can have the world on a string and skip through each day happily until someone sells you on what you need to do, what you need to stop doing, and for a low start-up cost they can help.

Then it’s bye bye love, bye bye happiness.

You were fine, but not in someone else’s eyes. If you want them to be happy, you need to change. That’s the gist of it, change for someone else.

Once you start changing based on someone’s opinion, you don’t stop. Then you’re lost and don’t know who you are unless someone tells you.

That’s a recipe for disaster, as if you’re not good enough as a stand-alone. Psssst, you are.

Manipulators like flipping switches and turning knobs and pushing buttons. Your buttons.

Lose weight. Dye your hair. Inject Botox. Suck out fat. Wear yoga pants. Done.

Or be your best self. Because that’s who you are.

You have my permission. It works like this:

My Best Self v Your Best Self

Do you wear ironed jeans with a crease? Shady.

Do you make your bed every morning so tight you can bounce a quarter off of it? Nice.

Do you leave the last scoop of ice cream for someone else? And if there’s no one else, save it for another day? Good.

Your actions speak louder than anything else. Louder than a Tijuana Rolex, louder than Man Tan and blinding white teeth, louder than a puka shell necklace.

Clean up your mess, help others a little more than they ask for, and make room to care about things you don’t know much about.

When you have a mask debate, or read about one, look for self esteem. Check credentials. A good person with a foundation of self reliance brings the trust.

What more could you ask for?