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TAKE STRENGTH FROM YOUR COGNITION POWER

Take strength from knowing who you are. If you don’t know, or feel unsure, spend some time to think about it. But don’t be disappointed if you’re wrong. Things change, you change, we all change. Besides, if you don’t already know who you really and truly are, who does?

GET MARRIED, THEY SAY. IT’LL BE FUN

Get married? Too many people see those words like the ‘Check Engine’ light in the car. Check that engine or get stranded somewhere you don’t want to be. Just to be sure, no one marries their car. Let’s get that out of the way.

MANLY MEN WHO FORGET TO BE MEN FIRST

The manly men where I grew up were loggers and truckers and fishermen. They were hard men doing hard jobs. One of them liked to visit with my dad and tease my older brother. There may have been tears. But it’s different now. What changed?

PERFORMANCE DIRECTOR? WHO NEEDS ONE

Performance Director is a job title I saw on a professional sports team. Those guys need more motivation, more accountability, after playing a game all their lives, making it to college, and signing a pro contract? What’s that say about the rest of us? Is there an area in your life that would benefit from […]

VIRTUAL VOLUNTEER MAKES AN OFFER TO REFUSE

What is a virtual volunteer? My wife and I were making quiche together. She seemed a little down. Earlier she’d asked me to bring the Halloween decorations tote downstairs. It struck me as an irony to decorate for a hands on holiday in the coronavirus era. I shared the feeling. No wonder she seemed a […]

MARRIED PEOPLE REVIEW: TRICK QUESTIONS OR NEW COMMITTMENTS

Five guys were going over the rules of married people with a past. The question was what to disclose to a wife and what to leave out. The men agreed that no good comes from giving too much personal history, but no one said why. I’ll help:

MARRIED MAN: TIME TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

A married man has one job above all others, and that’s to protect the institution of marriage. Otherwise, why bother jumping through the hoops to get married? “But Dave,” you ask, “how do I protect the institution of marriage?” It starts with a definition of marriage. Get ready, because here we go.

STRONGER TOGETHER IS THE GOAL

The team is always stronger together, stronger than the separate parts. If a superstar has a bad day on a good team, they still have a chance to win because the group can carry the load. The same idea works in neighborhoods, communities, cities, and towns. They are all stronger together than they are apart. […]

SADNESS AND THE ONLY CHILD ALONE ON THEIR DAY

The Smothers Brothers comedy team had a routine that fit every family, except only child families, when one said to the other, “Mom always liked you best.” Every brother or sister who hasn’t said that missed a golden opportunity for a guilt ridden jab, deserved or not. In some homes it has to go unsaid […]

BOOMER PARENTS: HOW KIDS LEAVE A MARK

A peppy forty-nine year old single man was feeling down, feeling the holiday blues. I did what boomer parents do, I butted in; it’s an auto-response. He said he lived too far away from relatives to visit family and make it all better. I could feel his sadness, so I tried to talk him back […]