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OPTIONAL FRIENDSHIP: YOU CAN’T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT

An optional friendship depends on time and place. But it’s not your time or your place. Tell me if this sounds familiar: “I’ve been so busy I haven’t had time to do anything, but in between my schedule, my plans, my obligations, my interests, my work, my obsessions, my fears, we should get together sometime.” […]

LOSER LESSONS FOR A LIFETIME OF HOPE

Loser lessons make good winners. The trick is finding context. The particular context is knowing you’re not a lifetime loser because of a few events that didn’t turn our your way. I’ve had a few, you’ve had a few. Anyone who says they haven’t had a few are only lying to themselves. Some loser lessons […]

FRONT YARD LADY FRIENDS BEFORE THE SMOKE

A big reveal from the forest fires in Oregon is understanding the front yard. With a little help, all of the beauty of shrubbery would burn. Before the fires and smoke, when it was a ‘normal’ lockdown pandemic, the front yard was a place to host friends for lunch. More accurately, it was where my […]

HOW BASKETBALL CREATED A COMMUNITY OF FRIENDSHIP

Basketball is one of then smaller teams in team sports. Baseball carries nine players the field, football eleven, but only five for hoops. And it’s the only one of the big three where players can compete one on one. In the other sports the most you can do with two is play catch.

FRIENDSHIP FEAR: WHAT DO THEY REALLY WANT?

Friendship fear doesn’t start early. If you’re watched toddlers in daycare, they’re not afraid of new people. It doesn’t start in the neighborhood either. The bigger concern for young kids are older kids pushing them around. Unless you grew up in a bully-free zone, which is a homeschooled only child living under strict rules of […]

BOSS MAN: WHEN THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON STOPS CARING

Boss man is an old term by now. Like Ram Rod, as in, “Who’s the Ram Rod of this operation,” it’s time has come and gone, like Rowdy Yates. Still, Boss man has power, whether you like it or not, whether it resonates or not. But, what is a real Boss Man? They come in […]

FOREVER FRIENDS? I MEET THEM ALL THE TIME AND SO DO YOU

Who starts the clock on forever friends? How long is forever? Lastly, if you had to repeat the same night forever with forever friends, what would you do? I don’t have answers for the first two questions, but I’ve got the last one covered. This is my forever night:

LASTING FRIENDSHIPS FROM ACQUAINTANCE TO UN-DITCHABLE

Try and remember the first lasting friendships outside your family that left an impression on you; think of someone before first grade. My early years were spent in a college town. My dad was a student with a wife, two kids, and another one born before he got his Bachelor’s.

BIG MOMENTS CHANGE LIFE DIRECTION

The first thought I have when I hear someone complain about their life going nowhere fast? ‘Then do something to change your life direction.’ Do I give advice on what to change? Oh, hell no. My advice to boomerpdx readers follows the same line of thinking: Don’t offer advice to someone complaining about their life […]

DELICATE DANCE OF FRAGILE FRIENDSHIP

    Can friendship survive if you say the wrong thing at the right time, the right thing at the wrong, or even the right thing at the right time.   If someone says the wrong thing at the wrong time, the friendship is doomed. No matter what the relationship, the wrong thing at the […]