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FITNESS WORK STARTS WITH . . .

Fitness work starts with a glancing look in a mirror, a reflection in a window. Or your wife asking, “What happened?” However, if you’re not married, no problem. There are still plenty of body shaming opinions shared quietly. Just not with you.

FAT SHAMER OVEREATS ON FAVORITE HOLIDAY, AGAIN

A fat shamer in a family of big people is a problem. Especially if it’s coming from a fat man who doesn’t know they’re fat. Look around and you’ll see them. More likely you’ll hear them.

TACTICAL AGING: WHAT TO LEAVE OUT

Tactical aging comes with a certain age. Some call it the ‘whispering’ age. Others stick with ‘a certain age.’ Both mean the same thing:

ANSWERING QUESTIONS FROM KIDS

Answering questions starts early for parents. Before they can talk, baby asks questions. They are the same questions informed parents ask, beginning with: Are we ready?

FAT SHAMING HALL OF FAME

Fat shaming, while not new, took a new turn. A concerned partner wrote for advice on a relationship with someone gaining weight. Have you written for relationship advice? Ever? And expected a response? Me neither, but this is amazing:

GIVING UP AT THE RIGHT TIME

Giving up is the same as quitting? Or something more insidious? Quitting feels so final, like, “All done here.” Giving up delivers a different message.

BODY WEIGHT: A FAT MAN’S CONFESSION WITH NO SHAME

Body weight became an issue for me in 7th grade. And it wasn’t fat shaming. That came later. In seventh grade there was a football weight limit for playing in the backfield. One twenty if I remember right. What I remember very accurately is I weighed slightly more, like five pounds. Coach Peasley, a small […]

SELF CARE, THE RIGHT TOOLS FOR THE JOB

Self care showed up in more places during the covid lockdown, and even more with reopening unfolding across the country. Most advice serves to create calm in the chaos, instead of just cutting and chopping willy-nilly. A smaller voice says, “Have another beer and see how that works,” but let’s look at psychology today instead.

HAES AND THE NATUROPATHIC DOCTOR

What is HAES? So glad you asked. Health at Every Size might sound like a New Age phenomena, but it’s not. It started in the baby boomer days of the 1960’s. If you missed it between Save The Trees and Save The Earth, others didn’t. People have always come in all sizes, however shaming is […]

Average American Man = Fat?

This is what it looks like my boomers. Average American from The Atlantic. The artist compares Average American, named Todd, to other countries. Do you agree with this interpretation, or is there something missing?